My story

My childhood was volatile, marred by parents who persistently argued and lacked emotional intelligence. Growing up in such an environment, I inevitably adopted many of the behaviors I witnessed. This pattern of behavior affected my personal growth and those around me. Reflecting on my life, I realize that my biggest mistake was failing to learn from life's lessons. Repeatedly finding myself in the same situations, I responded in familiar, ineffective ways. Consequently, I spent my 20s and 30s missing opportunities, settling into unfulfilling jobs that merely "got me by."

My relationships were equally tumultuous. After bouncing from one relationship to another, I settled into a long-term, yet unhealthy partnership. Despite our differences, we stayed together for almost 18 years, raising four beautiful children. Our relationship was marked by control, volatility, and co-dependency. Counseling helped me understand relationships better, but the lack of quality in our relationship and my poor decisions adversely affected my life and those around me. My career, personal relationships, and my children all suffered as a result.

Realizing I was the only one striving for improvement (or believing they needed to improve), I eventually stopped trying, which only worsened the situation. When I realized my children were learning to accept this dynamic as normal in a relationship, I felt forced to walk away. I left with almost nothing—nowhere to go, no money, and only one true friend I could rely on. My professional and personal reputation was tarnished, and my life was in ruins. I lost my sense of self, and my many childhood insecurities surfaced again.

Yet, through this personal crisis, I finally learned some crucial lessons: the importance of self-care and making better choices, realizing who I am, what I want, and developing happiness from within. This realization sparked my transformation. I immersed myself in reading, studying, and seeking mentorship. Despite another relationship failing, I continued to grow, eventually finding success in my career and personal life. I secured a good job, started my own businesses, and maintained a healthy relationship with well-defined boundaries.

Unexpectedly, people began seeking my advice on issues I had experienced. Through my lived experience and the skills I acquired, I was able to help others, receiving praise for my insights. This newfound purpose led me to commit to helping others rebuild their lives, much like I did.

My journey to becoming the best version of myself continues. This chapter is all about sharing my experiences and helping others to become the best versions of themselves, experiencing the outcomes they imagine, and making their lives, and the lives of those around them, so much better.