Principles to get an ex back
Here are the principles for getting an ex back when they broke up with you.
1. Respectfully Communicate Your Intentions
When they break up with you, communicate that you do not agree with the breakup and that you want to continue seeing them. Do not agree to be friends or to “see what happens.” Be clear and firm about your desire to keep the relationship and your vision for its future. This clarity is crucial.
2. Walk and Never Look Back
After expressing your intentions, step back and do not contact them for any reason. Show that you respect yourself enough to give them the space and time to miss you and reconsider the relationship.
3. Be Direct When They Reach Out
When they contact you, polite but direct about what you want. For example, say, “Hey, it’s great to hear from you. I’d love to see you. When are you free to get together at my place for dinner?” This sets a clear expectation that you want to spend quality time together in a setting that permits the relationship to rekindle.
4. Insist on Your Terms
If they won’t agree to come to your place, withdraw the offer. Tell them, “It’s been a long week and I only feel like staying in. Call me in a couple of weeks.” This demonstrates that you value your own time and won’t settle for less than what you want.
5. Cease Offering After Two Attempts
If you’ve asked them to your for dinner twice and they still won’t make a date with you, stop offering. By no longer making offers, you may pique their interest and make them wonder why you’ve stopped asking. This could prompt them to realise if they do not make an offer they may lose you for good.
6. Let Them Contact You Exclusively
From this point on, let them contact you exclusively. Don’t reach out to them for anything. Keep the conversation short and respectful. For instance, after two to three texts or one to two minutes on the phone, say, “It was great hearing from you, but I’ve got to run. Keep in touch.” This maintains your self-respect and may keep them curious about what you have going on.
Bonus: If You Broke Up with Them
If you were the one who broke up with them, it’s okay to meet them out or go to their place. In this scenario, you need to show that you are willing to put in the effort to win them back.
Summary
Respectfully communicate that you don’t agree with the breakup and want to continue seeing them.
Walk away and don’t look back.
Be direct about your intentions when they contact you.
Insist on meeting at your place to demonstrate their willingness to work on the relationship.
Stop offering after two rejections to see if they will take the initiative.
Let them contact you exclusively from that point on.
By following these principles, you can test their commitment to rekindling the relationship while maintaining your self-respect and boundaries.
