Shoot your shot!

A cut above man always goes for what he wants. And he sees it through to its natural conclusion, so he knows he was successful or not.

So if you’re out doing your thing and see a woman you just have to talk to, you talk to her. To the end!

If she hasn’t rejected you, you’re still in the game! We’ve all been there.

Think of a common example, like shopping.

You’ve gotten ready. You’ve got your list. You’ve put your cut above threads on and you’re ready to shop! And, maybe meet someone. You’re at the shops, just doing your thing, walking tall and slow, ignoring everything you’re not interested in and then boom…you see her. Exactly how you imagined “she” should look. “Wow” you think. “Gorgeous! One of the most beautiful women I’ve seen! Nine out of ten!”.

You’re sure she hasn’t seen you, but everywhere you go from then on… she happens to be in your orbit - from the side, behind...everywhere! You take the view in in amazement, not letting on to anyone what’s on your mind.

But you haven’t even made eye contact so you keep shopping, unperturbed and not paying attention to anyone else when it happens.

You’re not too focussed on what’s going on around you when a point of congestion has people blocked in as you approach. And as you start moving your trolley out of the way you look up to see her right in front of your trolley. You catch her looking you up and down! She keeps looking as she passes by. Your eyes meet and she looks down and away, saying “Sorry” with a cheeky smile breaking across her lips before she looks into your eyes again, tracking them until she has to look straight again.

Now, a cut above man knows what these signals mean. Do you? Email me.

Signals aside, you know you want her. And its good practice talking to people who are engaging us like this, you rationalise.

“I’ll talk to her next time” you think. Most men wouldn’t. They’re too shy to approach beautiful women. But not you. You’re becoming a cut above man. And you know to always shoot your shot!

Soon after declaring this to yourself you spot her at the other end of another aisle you need, alone. You stand tall and walk confidently past her before turning to face her. She’s looked up as you pass. The attraction is there. You can feel it.

“You have a beautiful smile, what’s your name?”, you confidently state.

“Oh, ah, ummm”, she stammers, startled at your direct, confident approach. “I’m Bianca, what’s yours?” she chirps, stepping closer than arms reach towards you, looking up and smiling right at you, her eyes wide and smile beaming.

You tell her your name and make conversation, but 2 exchanges in you weren’t expecting her responses and run out of things to say! You try to buy yourself time by grabbing an item off the shelf and checking its the right ingredient, but as soon as you look down she says “Well it was nice chatting” and walks off.

At this point you have two choices. You can let her go. Or you can stop her and keep talking.

If you’re like most men, you’ll let her walk away. You’ll finish your shopping and go to the checkout, see her at another checkout and wonder why she is staring angrily at you with a look of confusion and hurt. Later, it might dawn on you that from her perspective, it appeared you rejected her by turning away, even though you wanted her!! Most men wouldn’t get that far though.

You my analyse every moment. You’ll kick yourself. You’ll run “could have should have” scenarios through your head all week. You’ll wonder whether she really liked you (even though deep down you know she showed interest, at least enough to stop and chat). You might even feel sad, or angry. You may even miss her!

Your ego will bleed. You’ll hope to run into her again. And whenever you shop there again, your head will be on a swivel looking for her and only her. Its the not knowing that burns. And while you’re doing all that, you won’t be that same confident man she (or anyone else) saw that day.

And that’s why a cut above man needs the confidence to shoot his shot. To know how to handle any situation. To walk up to a woman he wants with clear intent and go for it! Whether it’s a friendly chat, to get her number, take her for an on the spot date, take her home to ravage her once, or date, propose and marry her.

However, it’s also important to handle rejection gracefully. Not every approach will be successful, and that's okay. Learning to accept and move on from rejection is crucial for maintaining your confidence and continuing to improve.

Whatever it is you want, you need to have the confidence to go for it, the skills to handle it, and the fortitude to see things through to their natural conclusion.

And you can develop that confidence right here, by signing up and learning to be a cut above man!