Become a Cut Above Man

Have you ever seen a man, felt jealous and thought “I wish I was him”? I bet you have. We all have. Maybe it’s his chiselled looks. His style. The car he drives. The job or money he has. The friends around him. Or, like a lot of men, it's the gorgeous woman on his arm that’s driving those jealous thoughts. 

Think back to when you had something no one else had. Maybe you were the only kid in your peer group with the most popular toy. Or the teacher paired you with the smartest kid in class on a project and everyone knew you’d get a great mark. Or the hottest girl in the room was attracted to you and paid you the most attention.

Almost everyone has been the “best” person in a social situation once.  If you haven’t, you weren’t paying attention. Not everyone does (and that’s a good thing!)

Reminisce. Feel those emotions again. Remember how people reacted and spoke to you. I bet some people were excited for you. Some were jealous. Some were in disbelief it was you. Some were mean to you. Someone may have even tried taking it from you!

How did you feel in that moment? Did you want to be anyone else? Of course not!!! You had “It”. You were happy. You felt proud. You loved the attention, even if you didn’t show it. It felt powerful. YOU felt powerful. Because in that moment, you were powerful! You were on top. And you would do anything to keep it that way.

Jealousy is such a wasted emotion. It comes from a fear of loss. Worse still, acting on jealousy almost guarantees you will lose what you were afraid to lose. A cut above man strives not to be jealous, because he doesn’t have to be. He’s his own man, on his own mission, his own purpose, living his own life on his terms. He has his own values and priorities, and he is driven to define, strive for and achieve his goals. Its normal to feel jealous. You’re allowed to. Permit yourself.

But a cut above man doesn’t let jealousy consume him. It just pique his curiosity, makes him wonder why he’s jealous. This is one of the keys to becoming a cut above man. Observe what you desire then drive the changes in your life to become better so than yesterday.

So the next time you catch yourself thinking “I wish that was me” and feeling its unfair, stop there.

Ask yourself what’s making you feel that way. What are you missing. Then figure out how to improve yourself and take the actions needed to improve.

And if you don’t know, book a call or send me an email and ask.

Once you know, put a plan together. A bad plan is often better than no plan. Don’t believe me? Imagine you and your best single friend both want a girlfriend and decide bigger muscles will help. “Let’s do this”, you commit to each other.

But neither of you know how to build muscles, so you stay home complaining in between TV slob sessions and feeling sorry for yourself. Your friend goes to the closest gym and signs up. He watches and copies people a few times that week. 

Later on you meet up to discuss progress. Neither of you built muscle. You’re no closer to your goal of getting a girlfriend. Then your friend remembers something.

“Oh yeah” he says excitedly. “After my last workout I was sitting in a puddle of sweat watching this beefcake pump iron when this chic walks up to me and tells me she saw me working out this week and that its good seeing guys look after themselves”. I just smiled and nodded then she says “well, talk to you soon” and left again.

Whose closer now? You, sitting at home with no plan and no clue  doing nothing? Or your friend with a bad plan and no clue, hitting the gym and having a woman with high enough interest to approach him initiating a conversation?

Your friend of course! While you’re lamenting, comparing, complaining and doing nothing you aren’t growing into the man you want, and are destined, to be. And you’re stopping yourself from identifying the habits and patterns that may get you there. 

So how do you turn this around? The first step is to identify those jealous thoughts, and reprogram your response. Let that jealousy hit you, dwell on it then ask yourself “Now, what can I do to get what he has, then challenge yourself to be a better you than yesterday, however you get there and put it into action.

The only thing you have to lose is the old you.

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